There is a special stratum in the male environment - bachelors. For some they are heroes, for others they are losers, and for women they are potential chosen ones. And public opinion, despite the millennial tradition, is also directed against these men.
It is difficult to say what methods they use to maintain their status. Like any other anomalous phenomenon, the life of bachelors is subject to discussion, fanned by many myths and legends.
Any unmarried man can be considered a bachelor. Bachelor status is not the absence of a stamp in the passport, but a life credo. Therefore, to be enrolled in the cohort of the elite, it is not enough to just be unmarried. Bachelors are a special group among the unmarried, the most distant from marriage and family. How do they stand out? The main thing for such men is a touching attitude to their own built way of life, with their established habits, hobbies, attachments. Any mention of marriage is inappropriate and unpleasant for them. However, this is what attracts many women. Therefore, next to even the most inveterate bachelor, there are usually applicants who are striving to involve a man in the abyss of family life.
In society, bachelors have a low social rating. Psychologists of women's magazines and websites love to analyze the behavior of this type of men, calling them socially immature. If we assume that marriage is the highest stage of a relationship, then bachelors are really inferior. But usually, just acquiring a family, a person is deprived of the opportunity to fully engage in himself. All his impulses and dreams are buried under a heap of family problems. The equality of spouses most often turns out to be a fiction and then one of them has to give in, trampling on his interests, sacrificing, in fact, a part of his life. For society, a bachelor man is a notorious and indecisive subject. In general, it is a brake on the harmonious development of society. It would seem how life would flourish if there were no such men! But this is not the case! It is male bachelors who have made a great many discoveries and social transformations. A significant part of world literature describes the adventures of single men and the misadventures of married ones.
Bachelors avoid women in every possible way. In addition to the fear of women, bachelors are even credited with hatred of the fair sex. It seems that this myth was launched by the ladies themselves, who could not get a promising candidate. Probably their desire was too explicit and intrusive. Bachelors do bypass such hunters at some distance. Usually, bachelors communicate with women without any barriers. Without thinking about them as potential spouses, bachelors respect, first of all, the personal qualities of women, not forgetting to pay back their beauty. But is the legal spouse always able to demonstrate such a dignified attitude? The accusation of misogyny must also be treated with caution. This is a property of nature itself, not marital status. Many of the sex maniacs were loyal and caring husbands in everyday life, about whom no one could even think badly.
Singles have problems finding employment. This myth was introduced not without the help of the state, which was disadvantageous to single people. At one time in the USSR there was even a tax on childlessness. The propaganda presented the image of a person building a bright future, a wonderful family man who walks every morning with his wife to his native enterprise. The bachelor, on the other hand, was considered poorly controlled, therefore, posing a certain danger to the state. Today, this opinion remains only among the overdue personnel officers in government agencies. Employers are well aware of all the advantages of a bachelor - he can go immediately on a business trip or stay overtime. And the ladies from the "necessary" structures will make eyes at him. A family man is practically devoid of such advantages.
Singles have a lot of everyday problems. Only in anecdotes does a bachelor appear unshaven, half-starved, eating canned food. His refrigerator is empty, and he himself walks around the house in his pajamas. In public, he is dented and unkempt. Today, the image of a bachelor implies his decent appearance. Developed household appliances easily allow him to organize household chores, he is even pleased that he copes without outside help. A wealthy bachelor can also afford a servant who cleans his apartment. Although there is usually no end to those wishing to help friends (naturally with forward-looking plans). The legend of poor nutrition simply died under the weight of grocery shelves in supermarkets. Nothing prevents a man from having lunch in a cafe or restaurant. If you want homemade food, then you can go to visit, at least to some of the friends, who have long dreamed of inviting a bachelor to visit.
The bachelor is deprived of sex life. But this myth is cultivated by married men in order to show their superiority. It seems to them that bachelors cannot make love when they want to. In fact, they just envy. The situation is exactly the opposite. This is a married man waiting for the moment of intimacy, when his wife no longer has a headache or when the children are out of the house. The average bachelor usually always has backup options. Probability theory does not imply a simultaneous headache for all candidates from a notebook, and some of them have a husband on a business trip. By the way, the bachelor does not need to name his passions in this book Ivan Ivanovich. A married man sometimes makes love even without his own desire. But the bachelor can easily fight off the transparent hints of his girlfriend, without fear of being labeled "impotent" or "bastards."
The life expectancy of singles is shorter. The counting bias gave rise to this myth, because young people who simply did not have time to get married are also considered bachelors, which lowers the age indicator. Many researchers also classify divorced men as bachelors, but who can guarantee that their health is not undermined by family life and its stresses? How many years of their lives did the divorce take away? A study even appeared on the Internet that proved that bachelors have a higher mortality rate than married ones. Although logic dictates that the mortality rate in both cases is the same - one hundred percent.
There will be no one to serve a glass of water to a dying bachelor. This argument remains the latest in a string of myths debunked. However, is it worth all your life to carry the cross of family life, against your will, for the sake of a single glass of ordinary water? By the way, doctors say that at these moments I just don't feel like drinking.
Any bachelor thinks about family. And this is just the truth. Despite the established image and established way of life, there come moments when it is cold outside and no one is at home. And all the friends are celebrating something with their family and children. And the bachelor will run through a crazy thought - to change everything. And he is very vulnerable at this moment.