If a woman disagrees with loved ones who tell her that she drinks too much or too often, this is a sure sign that she is developing alcohol dependence. Few have any idea how many tears of women invisible to the world dripping into glasses of alcohol. Female alcoholism is a phenomenon that the general public knows little about, and therefore a lot of all kinds of myths are born around it ...
Female alcoholism is incurable. Alcoholism is a chronic disease, just like diabetes or bronchial asthma, so doctors never talk about a cure. Their goal is to achieve remission of the disease, in the case of alcoholism - a sober lifestyle. An alcoholic cannot be returned to the state in which she was before she started drinking, but it is quite possible to help her become a teetotaler who does not consume alcohol and does not need to be intoxicated. Women, like men, are most hindered by a lack of desire to heal. Patients often come to doctors not to really get treatment, but to normalize their psychosomatic status (relieve discomfort) and solve problems in the family ("I went to get treatment"). The peculiarity of female alcoholism is that in patients the affect prevails, which quickly displaces everything unpleasant from the consciousness. For example, a psychotherapist works with her to make her aware of her illness, and after half an hour of conversation she will displace everything, affectively rework it and say that all this is nonsense. Narcologists complain that women almost always get to them in a state of neglect. For fear of shame, they can hide their drunkenness for so long that it comes to treatment only when it is no longer possible to hide and the diagnosis of "alcoholism" is written on their face. And the effectiveness of treatment, as in other diseases, is directly related to how timely it was started.
Mostly ladies of Balzac age are applied to the bottle. Alcoholics have become noticeably younger lately. Even 13-year-old patients get to the narcologists. American actress Drew Barrymore was treated in a rehab clinic even before she came of age. Anyone can fall ill with alcoholism with the systematic use of alcohol - twice a week and more often, when drinking becomes a system: on weekends - you need to drink, after work or study - look into a bar. If a person begins to drink regularly, he will get sick with alcoholism. When it is already a question of genetics and a woman's age. The dose of a psychotropic substance (and alcohol can also be attributed to them) is calculated not by body weight, like other drugs, but by age. So the young woman gets drunk faster than a pensioner. In addition, a woman's nervous system is organized in such a way that she gets drunk faster than a man. Although the terms are very, very conditional, it is believed that a man's path to alcoholism takes ten years, a woman's - six months or two.
Women get drunk on the basis of mental trauma. The nature of a woman is such that everyone has trauma. And even if there are no reasons for worry (the husband abandoned or the child died), she will still invent a tragedy for herself. Women tend to dramatize the situation, but this is not the cause of alcoholism. In the end, after the war, many women did not wait for their husbands, sons, brothers, they were left alone, but did not get drunk, but, on the contrary, tried to do something good. The premise of female alcoholism lies in the failure to solve real problems. Narcology shyly ignores the role of intoxication in a person's life, but it breaks the tight connection between the inner state and reality, gives a person the intention with which he entered into a state of intoxication. Someone drinks with the intention to calm down and calm down, and someone - in order to start up and get worked up. This attitude occurs both consciously and subconsciously. A woman drinks to get a certain state of mind. Without alcohol, life seems to her lean, and when she drinks, she becomes interested in something that does not interest her when sober. The state of intoxication creates a sense of life. When she transfers significant life activity into a state of intoxication, she begins to drink systematically and becomes an alcoholic. And then biology, physiology are already connected and alcoholism develops.
There is a "safe" dose of alcohol that will not make you drunk. A conditionally safe dose for a woman does exist: two units of alcohol a day. One unit is 125 ml of wine with a strength of 9% or 0.5 liters of beer. However, when there is wine with a strength of 12% in the glass, fill it twice - and this is already three units. Our ladies do not try to delve into mathematical subtleties and pour what is on the table, therefore, according to statistics, 25% of young women regularly drink twice the norm. Many fall into the misconception that it is enough not to exceed 14 units per week, so they go absolutely sober all week, and on weekends they catch up. In fact, a one-time use of large doses of alcohol is much more dangerous for the body and quickly induces a habit than infrequent use of small doses.
Alcoholics sleep under a fence and are homeless. Both queens and beggars drink. Noble women of the last century drank in hairdressers, at tailors and hid alcohol in their hair. Each has its own bottom. But we see drunken homeless people on the street, and a drunken business woman or the wife of a new Russian sleeps at home. This is not reflected in the diagnosis. The reason for the alcoholism of many successful women is that they want to feel important all the time, to be recognized again and again. For the actress who was given the award, after a week this fact of success does not mean anything. A person seeking recognition does not know the limits. The problem is that alcoholism invariably leads to degradation, and talent drowns in a glass, and fame remains in the past. Then drunkenness is the only way to feel at your best.
Alcoholics are rare. Alas! Women drink, and how. But in their head the image of a green monster with a bottle from a school textbook on biology and male phrases about how disgusting a drunk woman is. Female alcoholism is hidden. The man drinks a hundred grams and wants everyone to see it. A woman, on the contrary, will try to hide her drunkenness: she will sprinkle with perfume, will carefully fuss around her husband who has returned from work. There was even a case when a husband filed a complaint against a doctor who diagnosed his wife with alcoholism, because he himself did not even think about it. It is still not so difficult to notice that a wife, sister or daughter began to kiss the bottle. And it's not about the smell, you can interrupt it. The drinking woman becomes rude, her character changes, brutality, bitchiness, dishonesty appear. She becomes more irritable, selfish, neglects relationships with loved ones for the sake of a feast, the opportunity to communicate and drink. When a woman feels guilty about her drinking, she, on the contrary, is too zealous with her solicitude, fussiness, sentimentality. If you suspect a loved one of alcoholism, in no case try to accuse her, expose, especially since she will deny everything. We need a tactic of indirect allusions: this one got drunk, how awful, but this one, on the contrary, stopped drinking and looks much better. It is important to develop in her a desire to heal, without which all your tricks will still be useless.
Expensive and high quality alcohol is harmless. Taste, color, price - this is the tenth question. Some "start" in the doorway with cheap beer and fake vodka, others - with French cognac and liqueurs in a country cottage. Marilyn Monroe got drunk with champagne, Elizabeth Taylor - Scotch whiskey, Edith Piaf - cognac. The main thing is the dose, the regularity and the need for intoxication. The state of intoxication deprives a woman of self-criticism, changes her attitude. It seems to her that she is just having a good time with a glass of an expensive drink, but in fact she is already drinking.
Alcohol gives sexuality. Acting on certain brain receptors, alcohol in small (!) Doses increases a woman's sexual desire, liberates her, makes her cheerful and witty. However, for many men, a tipsy lady arouses much less interest than a sober one. This happens at the physiological level: a woman for him with all her passion, he seems to want to too, but disgusting. In addition, intoxication, which freed the lady from complexes and shyness, leads to a complete loss of criticism and promiscuity in sexual contacts. Having lost control over her behavior, she can easily wake up in the bed of a stranger.
Alcohol can help you deal with stress. This is half-truth, because the initially correct statement was raised into dogma and forgot about the main thing - moderate consumption, which in no case should become a regularity: stress is time to drink. In small doses, alcohol acts as a stimulant, relieving tension and relaxing. In large doses, the effect of the "medicine" is reversed, and alcohol "works" as a depressant, suppressing interest in life and the brightness of colors. The habit of kissing a bottle to relieve stress is the surest way to become addicted to alcohol, because first alcoholism is formed as a mental addiction and only then as a physiological and biochemical one.
Alcohol is good for your health. One of the most dangerous misconceptions in our country, because alcohol is useful in a dose exactly half the dose of a safe one, that is, one glass of wine a day or a quarter liter of beer a day. Only a few are kept within this framework, and even more so few people pay attention to what exactly they drink. For medicinal purposes (to lower blood cholesterol levels), only red wine and high-quality (!) Vodka are suitable. All other drinks to consume under the slogan "we drink so as not to get sick" is senseless and dangerous. The harm of alcohol is much more obvious than its benefits. The central nervous system (neurons are quickly destroyed, the woman degrades and falls faster), the liver (hepatitis, cirrhosis develop), the heart (cardiopathy, cardiosclerosis), the gastrointestinal tract, the menstrual cycle is disturbed, miscarriages are frequent, and early menopause occurs. ... The skin quickly fades, the lady is getting old before her eyes and loses her femininity. The effect of alcohol on the fetus of a pregnant or lactating alcoholic is out of the question. In drinking women, children are born with the so-called fetal alcohol syndrome, which in every second baby is accompanied by heart defects, anomalies in the development of organs, mental disorders, visual, hearing, and speech defects. Absorbing alcohol with mother's milk, children lag behind in height, weight and in fact become alcoholics in the cradle, further repeating the fate of their mother.